Vacation-related musings

Our annual vacation is to a town built around an ancient temple, which archeology dates to the 10th century, but in mythology and beliefs, is as old as humanity itself.  Naturally the temple and its town has seen phenomenal changes, both physically and in spirit.   Many of the changes are in keeping with the times (such as a tuft-sporting, panchakacham wearing mama typing on his laptop at the thinnai of his agraharam house or the madisar mami showing her grandchildren’s photos in her iphone outside the thayar sannadhi) and are to be expected.   And as nature (or humanity) would have it, some changes are indeed not of the welcome type.

When you go on a vacation, you overlook the negatives of the place and imbibe the positives, the memories, the history of at least a millennium and return rejuvenated.  However, when some of the changes clash against all that you have been taught, it certainly jars somewhere inside.

We usually take a long walk along the bordering roads of the temple every evening.  This time as we walked, we noticed something unusual.  But before that, a small recap.  When we were children, there were some rules to be followed without questioning.  One of them was that, at dusk, we do NOT lie down, but sit and do something useful – study, pray, sing…whatever.  This rule has been so ingrained that even when we are sick, we make it a point to sit at dusk, as we groan and moan and not get horizontal if we can help it.  I remember feeling guilty as I was lying down in transition on the dusk that my daughter was born.  Yet, as we walked around the temple, we noticed homes where people were lying down, right at the verandah, or even outside their houses at peak “vilakketrum neram”.  These were the same sort of people who taught our generation the rules.  Conflicting, huh?

Another disquieting observation is the complete takeover by the idiot box.   Just outside the walls that exude tradition, culture and history, people are glued to their televisions – children, old people, all types.  In fact, as I type out this post, there is “jackpot” going on in the television at the house we are staying in, and I remember my earlier experience with a shudder.

But who am I to judge?  I am merely a visitor here.  And I visit with nothing but a romantic memory of the past.  People who live here are, however, unlike me, in the present and must keep with the times.

I shall therefore stick to my walks as I take in the sights and sounds of this wonderful temple town that has survived the passage of centuries – the town is certainly much bigger than me or my prejudiced and often skewed judgements.

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Vacation musings – IV

1. That voice (“those documents are languishing”) is getting a tad louder.

2. At the temple, as I wait for the uchi kaala pujai to commence, I see a family comprising newly weds, groom’s parents and relatives.  The newly weds are absolutely smitten with each other.  The groom has a macho look about him, and wants his new wife to be comfortable, but is shy to pay too much attention to his bride in front of his family.  The bride is longing to stand with the dude, but the mother-in-law is standing beside her, yacking non stop about something – possibly about what her son likes and dislikes.  There are stolen looks and smiles and the whole thing is just so darn cute. I wonder if my dude and I did that when we were dragged from temple to temple soon after we tied the knot.  All I remember of those days is the horrible car sickness that engulfed me throughout the hither thithering.  A nauseous bride is NOT a romantic bride.

3.  Kid’s friend is down with fever.  And her kindle has developed lines on the screen that makes reading annoying.  I am counting minutes until she comes undone.

4. The kid has been made to drink gallons of paneer soda because mom loves it.  I hope this will not be a point for the psychiatrist couch at a later date.

5. It is startling to see a dead begger outside the temple tower, awaiting the ambulance to charter her away. The unseeing open eyes and flies buzzing around her face form an image that is disturbing indeed.  Makes me realise how wonderful it is to be alive.  And fortunate to be blessed with all that makes life worth living.

6.  Two more days before we drive to a small town 3-hours away for a wedding.  While the wedding is exciting, the prospect of the car journey is not.

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Vacation Musings – III

1.  Panneer soda (sweetened rose water soda) should be exported to all countries so that all in the world can enjoy its pleasure (யாம் பெற்ற இன்பம் and all that)

2. There is a slight (very slight – almost imperceptible) feeling of “those documents must be missing me” (or vice versa).   Chances are that it will become stronger with the days to come.

3. Candied gooseberry

4. 109 deg F is making its presence felt in terms of burning eyes and nostrils. Not complaining, merely observing.

5. A lovely 1-hour oil bath is a once-a-year luxury that must not be missed.

6.  The best thing about the lemonade made by the kid on a hot summer afternoon is that someone else will clean up the mess in the kitchen.

7.  The bee-hive activity and sounds (noises, sometimes) of an ancestral house can never be replicated in the nuclear household.

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Vacation Musings – II

1. When you stand outside a used-book store beneath a rocky hill on a hot summer forenoon, you will be surprised at how hot your slippers can get.

2. A one-hour sojourn under the hot sun is a sure indication that you would be out like a light at 8.30 at night.

3. Why would anyone buy fanta or coke when there is nannaari sharbath available in the same shop is beyond my imagination.

4.  Education has a bad influence during vacations – while drinking the said nannari sharbath (sarasaparilla essence + sugar syrup + lime extract + grape syrup + ice pieces broken using a hammer from large blocks of ice whose origins you don’t want to know), it is very hard to ignore that little city-bred, stupid voice that wonders if the body is fit enough to produce antibodies for vibiro choleraea and clostridium botulinium and salmonella typhi in time.  (PS Update: 20 hours from ingestion, there are no signs of faulty intestinal plumbing, so, the antibodies hopefully are in the act).

5. De-buttered buttermilk must be drunk more often.  That of course depends upon availability of someone in the household who can debutter buttermilk.  Fat chance I am going to sit and churn the buttermilk for an hour in the morning.

That’s all for now.

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Vacation musings

1. It is VERY important to spend a few days doing nothing – absolutely nothing in the course of a regular busy year.  Wake up, bathe, eat food cooked by someone else, lie on the sofa in stupour, not even thinking coherent thoughts, drink gallons of coconut water, juice, etc. , eat more food cooked by someone else, not bother about the kid, not bother about the dude, go for random, long walks with/without dude, etc.

2. It is so easy to forget that dry heat (against the humid heat one is used to in namma Chennai) can cause one’s nostrils to burn.

3. Even rava upma tastes tolerable when someone else has made it.

4. It never ceases to amaze me how easily other people manage their homes (actually two homes).  There is some seriously faulty wiring in the home management department in my hardware, I am sure.

5. Talking to a youngster who is currently confused about her education options makes me grateful that I have passed those stages.

6.  Trying to explain to someone else what my job involves makes me realise how much I love it.

Dang.  I have thought too much already.  Back to stupour.

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Evil mom lady

The kid wakes up this morning with a nightmare that I turned “evil” and devoured her friends.

Either the kid must stop reading horror stories at bed time, or, my parenting skills need serious re-evaluation.

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Swealt or sweat?

You know how people in Chennai always say “it’s not the heat, it’s the humidity that gets to me”?

Here is a revelation folks – HEAT GETS TO YOU.  Of course, 72% humidity kills you, but 40 degrees C is only marginally less offensive.

There…I got it off my chest.

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